Once you see it, you can’t unsee it: English is blame-based by nature.
Every sentence “demands an agent,” which means we’re trained to name who did it — even when no one actually did. The language also fuses emotions with identity (I am sad).
In this episode, I explore how English grammar can tangle us into blame and shame and I share simple shifts and steps you can use to unwind from it, if you wish.
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039 Blame, Shame, and the English Language
The hidden grammar that tangles your identity with every mistake and emotion.
Sep 17, 2025