Soul Deep Dig with Alora Cheek
Soul Deep Dig
026 Behavior Isn't The Problem: Parenting Beyond Control and Compliance
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026 Behavior Isn't The Problem: Parenting Beyond Control and Compliance

Why your efforts aren’t working — and what’s really underneath your child’s struggle.

What if you could finally see why your child acts the way they do — or why they won’t take action, no matter how many talks you’ve had?

If you’re a parent who loves your child with every fiber of your being — but still feels stuck, exhausted, and desperate to make things better — this episode is for you.

Whether your child is explosive, withdrawn, anxious, intense, or just “won’t listen,” this conversation helps you see what behavior-based strategies can’t: the deeper, passed-on patterns silently shaping your family from the inside out.

In this honest and compassionate episode, I walk you through:

  • Why behavior-focused parenting (without deeper foundation change) often leads to guilt, shame, and shutdown

  • The real reason your child may not be changing — or able to take new actions — even with therapy

  • How your healing can shift the entire family system (without saying a word)

This isn’t about blaming your child — or blaming you.
And it’s definitely not about “fixing” your child.

This is about finally seeing what you may have been looking for your entire life — even back when you were the child asking, “What is going on?!”

✨ This is the missing piece.

💛 Desperate for change? Come check out the Untangling Work.

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